First Anniversary

Today is our first wedding anniversary. Mike was really hoping he would be holding a little girl in his arms on this day, but doesn't seem too disappointed anymore that he will be holding a son by his birthday at the end of next month. Poor guy, this year has certainly been one of the more trying years in our time together. Well, we will see where things go from here. It is funny how the year seems to have been so long on one hand, but very short on the other. I have noticed the years seem to go by faster as I have gotten older. I can only imagine how fast it will be when we are looking at our child(ren) growing.

I talked to my MIL and SIL yesterday. Mike had said something to his sister about "our" concern for the date and she said she wasn't sure why she didn't think of it before, but she would already be in town the weekend earlier. She won't have as much time to get ready but it will save her about a 250 mile road trip. The next thing is that they had decided to have the shower in my in laws back yard, in Nebraska, in August. I said there will probably be more people than the last shower we had there and there isn't much space for parking. Mike had already warned me of this and was mad because he was going to have to set up this huge tent we have in the back yard. I see two problems with this. It won't fit. The tent is very large and their yard is not. It isn't terribly small but there is a tree in the middle that effectively ruins any large space. There is then a second alternative to that. His grandma lives directly next door and her yard doesn't have a tree in the middle of it. Her yard also doesn't have all the dogs crapping in it. I am not being snobby, but neither of these spaces is exactly ready for entertaining. Mike's parents have a ton of crap all around the back of the house. I know that my MIL would make my FIL clean this up and I don't want the extra work created for me. It is true that much of it just needs to be thrown away, and it does need to be cleaned up sometime, but I don't want it to be my fault. So I asked if they had looked into any, say, air conditioned restaurants in the area. I know many of them you can use with just a reservation and no charge. My sister told me most of the showers she has had have been at restaurants and then people can order what they want or not. They can do some decorating and only have to worry about cleaning up those decorations and they don't have to provide food except for cake if they so choose. They seemed to think this was a good idea, but I had to come up with several suggestions as to locations. My SIL is only focused on invitations right now because that is what she likes to do and have I ever mentioned that my MIL might not be getting quite all the watts in her 60 watt bulb? At least she is trying to do something nice. It doesn't matter that it is bringing the focus of the attention towards her since she is hosting the party. That is probably the primary reason she wants to do it at her house, but when I started mentioning potential numbers she was noticeably uncomfortable with that many people being at her house.

So I got a list put together for my SIL last night and we have already registered. I am sure hoping that I got my husband out of the work they volunteered him for. They would have to rent tables and chairs too and he would have to do that work. He would also probably end up paying for it and that is 100% unacceptable to me. I told him if we had to pay for anything, and I mean ANYTHING, we would be better off just not having a shower and buying the things we really need ourselves. I'm afraid to find out how much stuff it takes to have just the basics because we aren't there yet. Anyway, God help us all. I know this isn't the last of my thinking this isn't a good idea. I just know that I am going to have to suck it up and hopefully the rath at work won't be too bad. I have to let the in laws have some of the attention in this.

Well, hopefully today can be a good day for us. Mike hasn't gone to work yet and so at least we will be able to see each other some. That is if he ever gets out of bed!