I went to my in laws house today and I was given some invitations for my shower by my SIL and I am none too happy. I know they want to do something nice for me. But I also know that this is really about them. I have accepted that and am willing to proceed. I, however, am pissed because on the back side of this invitation it says the shower is at my MIL hous
e. I really thought I had her convinced that wasn't a good idea. She now expects my husband to stay home from work and set everything up and pay for rentals!!! I am very glad he had gone to work when I came home so pissed. He did call however, and got an ear full. He agrees that he will NOT be staying home from work to set anything up. He will help if he is home. That had better be the case. If he stays home from work for this I will be so angry and at this point I can't suck it up very well and behave for the guests.
We had a little discussion last night and my husband had the paper in hand that shows how much money he really can make if he goes to work when he is allowed. Obviously there have been a lot things that have happened out of our control as far as his work. We can't help what they do, but he can go to work when he is supposed to. I think he is finally starting to see the bigger picture a bit better. I know there have been times that I want him to stay home so we can spend time together. His friend that drives me nuts so much has had a couple of good job opportunities come up and his friend doesn't seem to get it. I think Mike has made some realizations seeing his friend be such a dumb ass! He calls Mike to tell him about these opportunities and then tells him how he thinks he will do something else instead. Mike had tried to help him get these opportunities. Mike keeps trying to tell him to look at what is best for his family in the long run and I think Mike is finally seeing that he needs to look at what is going on with his own family in the long run. We will see how this works out, but right now my husband seems to have realized that he is a grown up with grown up responsibilities. Wow! I feel like I should thank his friend for being such a slug!
Good news! Our crib came today after being ordered for a couple of months at least. The box is sitting in Jake's room just waiting for his daddy to come home and put it together. Mike is really looking forward to that too! I had to bite his ear off over the phone today to get him to go pick the crib up because he wanted to leave it at the store until he comes back from this trip. I didn't want to give anyone the chance to make a mistake and send it back.
I am still frustrated. I wish that my MIL and SIL would have just taken half the money they are spending on the shower and bought us a nice gift instead. Mike actually brought this up yesterday while he was cooking dinner. He said that most people's parents give them something really nice for the grandchild. Like maybe the crib or something else substantial. I understand how he was feeling. It would be nice for just once to come from a family where your parents can financially help you instead of the other way around. Just one time. The thing that really bothers us is the expectation. We don't mind paying for somethings, but it isn't like we have a lot of money. We struggle too, but we do make more money. I just don't think we should have to be paying for a baby shower that is being thrown for us. We don't want them to do something they can't afford, nor do we want them to do something we can't afford. I guess I just want to get it over with and move on!
e. I really thought I had her convinced that wasn't a good idea. She now expects my husband to stay home from work and set everything up and pay for rentals!!! I am very glad he had gone to work when I came home so pissed. He did call however, and got an ear full. He agrees that he will NOT be staying home from work to set anything up. He will help if he is home. That had better be the case. If he stays home from work for this I will be so angry and at this point I can't suck it up very well and behave for the guests.We had a little discussion last night and my husband had the paper in hand that shows how much money he really can make if he goes to work when he is allowed. Obviously there have been a lot things that have happened out of our control as far as his work. We can't help what they do, but he can go to work when he is supposed to. I think he is finally starting to see the bigger picture a bit better. I know there have been times that I want him to stay home so we can spend time together. His friend that drives me nuts so much has had a couple of good job opportunities come up and his friend doesn't seem to get it. I think Mike has made some realizations seeing his friend be such a dumb ass! He calls Mike to tell him about these opportunities and then tells him how he thinks he will do something else instead. Mike had tried to help him get these opportunities. Mike keeps trying to tell him to look at what is best for his family in the long run and I think Mike is finally seeing that he needs to look at what is going on with his own family in the long run. We will see how this works out, but right now my husband seems to have realized that he is a grown up with grown up responsibilities. Wow! I feel like I should thank his friend for being such a slug!
Good news! Our crib came today after being ordered for a couple of months at least. The box is sitting in Jake's room just waiting for his daddy to come home and put it together. Mike is really looking forward to that too! I had to bite his ear off over the phone today to get him to go pick the crib up because he wanted to leave it at the store until he comes back from this trip. I didn't want to give anyone the chance to make a mistake and send it back.
I am still frustrated. I wish that my MIL and SIL would have just taken half the money they are spending on the shower and bought us a nice gift instead. Mike actually brought this up yesterday while he was cooking dinner. He said that most people's parents give them something really nice for the grandchild. Like maybe the crib or something else substantial. I understand how he was feeling. It would be nice for just once to come from a family where your parents can financially help you instead of the other way around. Just one time. The thing that really bothers us is the expectation. We don't mind paying for somethings, but it isn't like we have a lot of money. We struggle too, but we do make more money. I just don't think we should have to be paying for a baby shower that is being thrown for us. We don't want them to do something they can't afford, nor do we want them to do something we can't afford. I guess I just want to get it over with and move on!
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